Ep. 146: BROKE BITCH TO PRETTY RICH, HOW I GOT FIRED FROM MY SERVING JOB TO MAKING 10 MILLION DOLLARS AS A BEAUTY ENTREPRENEUR
Sometimes you have to fall to get where you're really supposed to be.
Do you ever look back at a moment in your life that was really hard, a moment where you just wanted the ground to open and swallow you up because it was so deeply humiliating -- and realize that moment was pivotal to who you are now?
It's so crazy to me how moments like that can really build us. Like, they can break us for a moment, but we rise up better than we were before.
Just before I found PMU, I hit rock bottom. I had just gotten fired, I had just gotten a divorce, I had no college education and no real sense of self. I was, you know, a broke bitch. I think a lot of the time it's easy for you to look at me where I am now and think I've always had all of this. But that couldn't be further from the truth!
So in this episode, we're going to explore my past a bit and remember where it all began. Because trust me if I can do this you can too.
Here are the episode highlights:
‣‣ [03:48] Let's talk about one of the most embarrassing moments of my life where I just totally wanted to disappear.
‣‣ [05:16] How did I feel after I hit such a low point?
‣‣ [07:01] What did I do to build myself back up?
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Sheila Bella:
I can't believe I got fired. I got fired, you guys. It's so humiliating. This is my broke beep to pretty rich story, it rhymes, right here on Pretty Rich Podcast. Let's do this.
Welcome to Pretty Rich Podcast where you're totally the heroine of your own story. I'm your host, Sheila Bella, and I've built a seven-figure PMU beauty biz, and a seven-figure online biz without a degree, without a fancy website, or a sugar daddy. If you and I hang out on here long enough, you're going to start to believe that you can do it too. How about that for a side effect of listening to this podcast? Because you really can. I know you think, I don't know you. I've no idea who you are, but I do. I really, really do because I am you. I was you, and I believe we are all on the same journey together. My perfect job didn't exist, so I created it. The job I wanted wasn't hiring me, wanting nothing to do with me. So I skipped the line and hired myself as CEO, just like you can. So consider me your secret beauty biz BFF. In case you need to be reminded on a weekly basis, that power is never just handed to you. You have to take it. Are you ready beauty boss? Let's jump in.
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But let's go back to how Kajabi is this simple, seamless integration with all of your payments to host all of your online courses, and do your marketing for you and your website all in one place. Guys, I've tried other platforms that wasn't as good. It wasn't as good. It ended up costing me more time and more money, so take it from me. If you want to make more money and keep more money, you got to go to sheilabella.com/kajabi where a K and see what it can do for you, and you're welcome in advance. Back to the show.
Guys, oh my gosh. We're going to go down memory lane today. I don't know. I had this memory that popped up the other day, and so I don't know. Now I need to talk about it. Sometimes your brain plays tricks on you like that where it'll just send up a memory, like boom, there it is. There it is. Oh, that's vivid. That is vivid. I feel like I'm there all of a sudden and that was a years ago. Have you ever had a moment that was so humiliating that you wish Harry Potter was real? I wish that I could sometimes just grab my invisible cloak and be like, "Where'd she go? Where'd she go?" Oh my gosh.
I had that moment about 12 years ago when I got fired from a job working as a server at a restaurant, and I'll never forget the look on that manager's face when he called me into this office. By the way, I'll also never forget that morning where I could feel like they were talking about me. All the managers were, again, they smiled. I was like, "Wow, this is a great job. They really like me." Anyway. I'll never forget the moment that manager called me into his office. I thought to tell me that I'm doing a great job. He sat me down and then he said, "Sheila." I'll never forget it. “Today is going to be your last day working here at this restaurant. You will no longer be employed. Please pack up your things and go.”
He used these specific words so that I couldn't say, "Wait, what? What's happening?" He used those words strategically, and I was so numb. I felt so embarrassed. I didn't even have any questions. and I'll never forget. There was a walk of shame down a flight of stairs to my locker where I kept my things, and I remember feeling so small. I was thinking, did people know? Were they staring at me because they knew the news? I remember that was one of the lowest points in my life self-esteem wise because I had just separated from my first husband, and I was already super low. I got this job because it was vibrant, and it was new, and I wanted to start a new life for myself, and I really needed the money.
I had terrible social skills though and just a victim mentality in general. So truth be told, the managers probably saw that. I'll be honest with you. I probably would have let me go too. But that was the moment. There was a moment once I got home, honestly, where I realized that I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and instead of feeling sorry for myself, I felt rage for the first time. Have you ever felt rage like that for the first time? I went from being like a sad little Chihuahua whimpering with its tail between its legs to just [inaudible 00:06:15] mad, just mad. So angry now, and not necessarily at that job, but just at myself, my circumstance. Sometimes it just takes you not crying anymore. It just takes you finally getting angry now, aggressively angry. You can use that for good because $10 million in gross sales later, look who's laughing now. I love that quote, "Her biggest flex is that she did everything she said she was going to do."
I kept promises that I made to myself, and I guess you could say that was me. I did everything I said I was going to do and a bunch of other crazy, unexpected things as well. My husband keeps saying, "No one saw you coming." I can't even tell you I saw me coming and it's amazing what you can accomplish once you stop whimpering, and get angry, and just start working when you stop being a victim and just commit, not even commit, just decide. Just decide you're going to have victory now. You're going to have victory over your circumstance now. It's a decision.
If this helped you at all in any way, or if you have some feedback about this, just if you want to chat with me about it, I want to invite you to text me. Text me. My number is 310-388-4588. I love to get your feedback. I want to know who's listening to this and yeah, you can really text me. It goes straight to my phone, and I would love to hear your thoughts because guys, I want to normalize stuff like this. I don't want people to think that I just jumped from mountaintop to mountaintop because a lot of people are afraid about sharing their past or low points in their lives because they're embarrassed. Honestly, yeah, that was embarrassing. But I know everybody's been there at some point or another, one point or another and if you haven't, you will. That's why we're in this thing called life. It's not about just feeling good. It's about feeling it all. Until next time friends.
Hey, thanks so much for listening to today's episode of Pretty Rich Podcast. If you want to continue the conversation longer, check me out on Instagram. It's my favorite place to connect with you guys @realsheilabella. I'm happy to answer any of your questions, or simply to chat, and get to know you better. If you end up doing something super awesome like screenshotting this episode and reposting it on your stories, that would put the biggest smile on my face. Don't forget to tag me. I appreciate every share and love feedback from my listeners.
Also, do you have my number? Do you have my number? Because if we're going to keep hanging out, you should probably have my number. So you can actually text me, that's right. You can text me at 310-388-4588. If you're sick and tired of doing business alone, and you're interested in accelerating your success by hiring a business coach or joining our mentorship program called Pretty Rich Bosses, go ahead and just apply. Why not? Check it out. Go to sheilabella.com/apply, and we'll schedule a free strategy session with either myself or one of my advisors. Of course, I got to include my kids. So here to send us off are Beau and Grey. Share with your friends.
Sheila Bella:
Grey, say, "Share with your friends."
Grey:
Share with friends.
Sheila Bella:
Please review my mommy on iTunes.
Grey:
[inaudible 00:10:28] Mommy iTunes.
Sheila Bella:
Thanks for listening.
Grey:
Thank you for listening.
Sheila Bella:
Hey Beau, can you tell everybody what our family motto is?
Beau:
Yeah. I can do hard things.
Sheila Bella:
I can do hard things. Good job, buddy.
