Ep. 140: Be Careful Who You Share Your Goals With
You can NOT and SHOULD NOT be sharing your goals with everyone.
Goals and dreams are precious, okay? They're important and you can't just share them with every single person in your life because not everyone is going to understand them. And each time you're faced with doubt, even when it comes from a good place, it'll diminish that glow more and more.
I will never tell someone "okay reel it in there, let's be realistic about this, don't go chasing that goal." Like, look at me. If I didn't go chasing my "crazy" goal of becoming filthy rich tattooing FACES for a living - well neither of us would be here, would we? I'm a firm believer of finding that bright shiny goal and going after that. I mean, that's what we do in Pretty Rich Bosses, right? We give women like you the tools they need to make that bright shiny goal a reality. And sometimes we have to do some serious convincing because so many people have shared their dreams with people that don't believe them. So now they're just filled with all of this doubt and it's going to take even longer to reach their success.
So in this episode, I'm going to tell you exactly why you have to keep your goals at least a little guarded. You can't just be sharing them with everyone. You can share them with me though. Definitely share them with me.
Here are the episode highlights:
‣‣ [02:02] Let's just get right into it: some people love to tear you down when you talk about big goals because they think that they're keeping you "safe".
‣‣ [04:01] Sometimes it is literally just you and God that believe in and understand your goals.
‣‣ [05:01] Just because you're "alone" or just because people think your dream is silly - it's not. That could be the thing that makes you a millionaire, okay? It could be the thing that pays of all your student loans. It could be the thing that gets you your dream house.
‣‣ [10:10] Now I want you to be really honest with me. Zero judgment here, okay? What is your dream thing? What's your big goal you're scared to share? Say it out loud, let's go, you and me.
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Sheila Bella:
Your dreams, your goals, you have to treat them like hidden treasures. You have to be careful about who you share them with because they might steal it. No, no, no. I'm not talking about people literally stealing it and doing the idea before you. No, they might rob your joy and your mojo and your energy and the life behind this dream. The literal life of this dream, they might kill it. Let's talk about it today on Pretty Rich podcast.
Welcome to Pretty Rich podcast where you're totally the heroine of your own story. I'm your host, Sheila Bella and I built a seven figure PMU beauty biz and a seven figure online biz without a degree, without a fancy website or a sugar daddy. And if you and I hang out on here long enough, you're going to start to believe that you can do it too. How about that for a side effect of listening to this podcast? Because you really can. I know you think, I don't know, I have no idea who you are, but I do. I really, really do because I am you. I was you. And I believe we're all on the same journey together. My perfect job didn't exist so I created it. The job I wanted wasn't hiring me, wanted nothing to do with me so I skipped the line and hired myself as CEO. Just like you can. Consider me your secret beauty biz BFF. In case you need to be reminded on a weekly basis, that power is never just handed to you. You have to take it. Are you ready beauty boss? Let's jump in.
Welcome to another episode, amazing episode, life changing episode of Pretty Rich podcast. Yeah. I make the claims. I make the big claims. Because guys, if you guys really take this advice to heart, it's literally life changing. Have you guys ever heard, "You are crazy? Have you lost your mind?" Whenever you talk about a dream or a goal that you might have. How are you going to make it work? Aren't you too old? Or what will you do for money? Gosh, are you just so money hungry? Or whoa, whoa, whoa. How much are you going to invest in your business? Are you absolutely insane? Or maybe they're like, that idea is cute, but I got to be honest, I don't think it's going to work. These people are saying it nicely. Sure. Okay. And they're probably well intended but this is why you got to be careful with who you share your dreams with.
This is not uncommon, actually. It is more common than not. If you're thinking about embarking on a new chapter in your life or in your business and you already feel like you're not being supported by people in your inner circle, I see this all the time. Take heart that this is very, very typical of entrepreneurs to come across this issue all the time. And for the most part, it's not really their fault. It's just that they don't understand. They're in a completely different body. They don't see your vision. They don't. And it doesn't matter how much they love you or how amazing of a communicator you might think you are. God did not put that vision in their hearts. In their minds. God put it in yours. And there's a reason.
Remember when the angel came to Mary and said, "You pregnant now. You have the son of God in your body right now." Boom. Inseminated, you pregnant. And then Mary went to Joseph and be like, "I'm pregnant." And he was like, "Wait, what? Did you just cheat on me? Oh my gosh. I'm so out of this." It had to take an act of God for Joseph to be like, "Oh, Oh." And sometimes even your partner is not going to be in the same timeframe as you. You might be late to the party. God may not tell him yet. And if he's not listening, then you on your own. You on your own. Maybe you want to quit your job. Maybe you want to quit your super stable six figure corporate job and you want to be an entrepreneur. Maybe you want to start a new business. Maybe you want to do something a little weird like, I don't know, start a YouTube channel and teach people arts and crafts.
It was silly for what's her name? Who's the slime girl on YouTube? Hold on. Let me look that up. I just looked this up. You guys know the YouTuber, Karina Garcia. And she is now worth $4.5 million. And her content on YouTube is mainly DIY videos, teaching people how to make slime. That's it. That's it. $4.5 million. What if Karina Garcia would have listened to her boyfriend or her mom or her cleaning lady? Come on. But the Lord spoketh. Spoketh? Anyway, the Lord spoketh and said, "You're going to be a millionaire. Keep making slime." Maybe you want to be a singer. Maybe you want to make a movie. That first all is so cool that you're thinking outside the box and pursuing your passion. But guys, in order to be successful at this, you have to pursue your goals with freedom and positivity.
A huge part of that process is having a safe place where you can grow and thrive in and create and that safe place doesn't just happen you guys. You have to create it. You have to protect it. Don't feel bad for keeping things to yourself, keeping things close to your chest. You don't need to feel guilty for not telling every single person in your life of what your goals are. The reason why you have naysayers in your life, it could be a million different things. They're jealous is one. They hate the fact that you're pursuing your dream because it highlights the fact that maybe they didn't pursue theirs. And I think the biggest reason and a reasonable reason is that they've never had success doing what you say you want to have success in. In their mind, you are totally crazy. They've never seen it. They've never seen it work in their life so why would it work in yours? This is their reality. That's their reality.
That's why when they tell you, you're crazy, have you gone mad? What are you doing spending this much money on blah, blah, blah, blah, blah blah? Or what are you doing quitting your job? Blah, blah, blah. It comes from a really genuine place because they have no idea. They have no idea. That's their reality to them whenever they try to do something, they fail. Or they've never tried at this thing or they've never seen anybody make money at this thing. They haven't seen the miracles with their own eyes. Maybe they haven't met me. I'm a freaking walking miracle every dang day. Guys, you've got one life to live, yours. Just yours. You owe it to yourself to leave it like you mean it. What is the legacy you want to lead and live?
I have come to realize that I have done a very poor job of reminding everybody why the heck I have so much time to create content. Why do I have time to podcast? How do I have time to create so many reels? How do I have all this time to create inspiring posts, online courses, vacation with family even, et cetera, et cetera? I know you guys know that I'm a permanent makeup artist, but what you may not know is that the reason why I have all this time to pursue the things that I'm truly passionate about is because I've scaled my business. I've scaled my business to create two to $300,000 months in revenue. And I did it all through me not even having to be there.
I have a permanent makeup studio that now employs seven full time artists. I used to have 14 and now I have seven and the seven that I have, have been with me for five years or more. How? How did I do this? You see, this type of financial freedom is what is available to you through the art and craft of permanent makeup. If you're a solo business owner and you're looking to scale your business, just like I did, and perhaps stop the Groundhog Day experience of going in and out, doing brow after brow, after brow and you're looking to create jobs and opportunities for those who are deserving or perhaps those that you love. This is exactly the model that we coach people through in our Pretty Rich Bosses mentorship program. Whether you're a veteran or just starting out in the industry, if this is something you crave, why don't you pick up the phone and text me for a complimentary strategy call?
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If you were to not ask anyone else, there were no consequences, no one will know, just you and I. Just you and I in this car, in these headphones, in this room, wherever. It's you and I, what do you really want to do? What do you love busting your butt for? What lifestyle do you want to live? If you knew you could not fail, what would you try and do? Okay, I'll wait. I'll wait. Tell me, what would that thing be? You can pause this. Go.
Okay. Now that you've said it, now that you've said it. Wow. Was that a load off? Listen, be careful who you share that with. Be careful. Yes. Okay intimacy, your spouse. If your spouse has a small mind, don't tell him. Don't tell him or her. I can't tell you how many times I'm talking to a client. Everything's great. And all of a sudden, they speak to their spouse, sister-in-law, friend, psychic, whatever. And all of a sudden everything changes. And they said, "Are you insane? Are you insane?" And then I talk to them and I'm like, "Whoa, the life behind your eyes just went away. Just a minute ago, I was talking to you and you were like, Oh, this is going to be great. I'm going to have the best 2021 ever." Spark goes away. My gosh, just dead. Boom. They just gave it away. They get comments like, you have to be realistic.
I've never used that word. Realistic equals giving up. No plan B you guys, no plan B. Who are you asking advice from, guys? Has your spouse ever built a successful business? A successful beauty business? Made six figures online? Has your friend ever achieved the things that you say you want to achieve? Never ever take advice from people who have never achieved the things that you want to achieve. A lot of times we have to completely ignore advice from our loved ones. Our dearest loved ones, because they've never ran a successful business themselves or done the thing that you want to do. You know even before talking to them, I know you know. You can tell who has a scarcity mindset. Who's stingy about it. Who's skeptical. Ugh, skeptical. Skeptical. I'm a Pisces. I believe. I believe, I believe, I believe. And that's the kind of energy that's going to get you to the life that you want to lead.
You got to believe. You got to switch your mindset. You know who in your circle already has a scarcity mindset and a small mind. Really, don't let emotion just, oh my gosh, blah la la la la la, this is what I'm going to do. Just don't just blurt things out like that. Are you nuts? That's nuts. You already know who has a small mind and a scarcity mindset. Just be careful you guys. If you want to stay small, yeah listen to them. But why would you ever ask for their advice? Don't expect everyone to understand the journey. And if you're like me, you love relationship. You want to share. If they've never journeyed it themselves, yeah, of course, they're not going to understand.
Heck, when I first started my permanent makeup business, my husband was like, "Wait, tattooing eyebrows. Tattooing eyebrows." He was my boyfriend at the time or fiance I think. I think I was like, "Yeah. Yeah." And then he was like, "Well, the only person I know with tattooed eyeliner is my friend, blah, blah, blah and you know his wife and it's blue." And I'm like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can do it better. I think it's going to be a hit. It's going to be a hit." And he's like, "Okay." If I let his energy drag me down, drag me down and let it stop me, I would not be here. I just wouldn't be here. Even with this online stuff. Even becoming an online entrepreneur.
I feel like a few years ago I really took it seriously. And I was like, "Hey babe, I'm going to do a brand shoot. Going to do brand shoot and I'm going to up my online presence." And he's like, "Okay." And so he really didn't understand why I had to create content and it was free. For free. He was like, "You just like taking pictures? You like getting dressed up and like taking pictures?" And I was like, "Yes. And I'm going to get paid for it." And he was like, "All right." He begrudgingly posed for these things. He was like, "Whatever. Happy wife, happy." He didn't understand. I was like, "Listen, having a strong online presence," I couldn't articulate this, "is going to be lucrative in the future in ways that you couldn't imagine that I couldn't tell you. You wouldn't believe me if I told you, but this is going to make us filthy rich. I promise."
I couldn't tell him that with confidence, but I just knew in my heart that this was the direction that I needed to go in, that I needed to lean in. If I let his not negativity, lack of enthusiasm, let his lack of enthusiasm dictate my mood and the trajectory of my success back then, we wouldn't be here today. Oh, now Will poses for pictures. Are you kidding me? He tells the kids. He was like, "Kids, smile. Smile for mama." He was like, "Let's go." He's like, "Babe, what do you want me to do with my hair? You want me to pose here?" Sometimes you know, better than your husband. You know better than your husband. Sometimes you do.
Mary knew better. She did. She did. God told her first. And you have to understand. You have to get right with God and understand the difference between is this just what I want? Or is this a vision that God put in my heart that I can not shake off? Every dang day, I keep thinking to myself, why am I going into work? Why am I going? Why am I still here? That's a calling. That's calling you. That's the Lord calling you to pay attention. Don't let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big. Don't let anybody transform your mind into something that it's not. If you're not following your dreams right now, or that calling, stop. Stop right now. Stop doing what you're doing. Turn around and listen.
That's it for today's episode of Pretty Rich podcast. Guys, if you like this episode, please leave a five star review on iTunes. It would mean the world to me if you do that. And as a matter of fact, at the end of the month, I do a drawing for anybody who leaves me a five star review. Especially if you leave your Instagram handle. I will choose one lucky person to receive a free course on sheilabella.com/programs, any course of your choice. And honestly, you guys, even without that, I read all of the reviews and it just means so much to me. I can't say it enough. So appreciate you. Have a good day. God bless.
Hey, thanks so much for listening to today's episode of Pretty Rich podcast. If you want to continue the conversation longer, check me out on Instagram. It's my favorite place to connect with you guys @realsheilabella. I'm happy to answer any of your questions or simply to chat and get to know you better. And if you end up doing something super awesome, like screenshotting this episode and re-posting it out on your stories, that would put the biggest smile on my face. Don't forget to tag me. I appreciate every share and love feedback from my listeners.
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Grey, say, "Share with your friends."
Grey:
Share with friends.
Sheila Bella:
Please review my mommy on iTunes.
Grey:
Do do mama iTunes.
Sheila Bella:
Thanks for listening.
Grey:
Thank you for listening.
Sheila Bella:
Hey, Beau, can you tell everybody what our family motto is?
Beau:
Yeah, I can do hard things.
Sheila Bella:
I can do hard things. Good job, buddy.
